''HATE ME....,BUT DON'T LIE TO ME.''

One of the strangest things couples or lovers do to each other is tell each other lies. Some say such lies keeps the relationship going, and others say it keeps the bond of union stronger. But if my experience in relationship handling is anything to go by, 'love lies', as I love to call it, is like bubbles waiting to burst. It's just a matter of time. The longer it takes to keep lies going, the graver the likely consequence it will cause when the bubble finally burst, and sometimes, the wider the circle of people it will negatively affect. A lie told during courship, and kept on for years, can cause real disastrous effect to one's children several decades later.

'Love lies' vary in nature and impact, but ultimately when uncovered, can cause damage to TRUST. When TRUST is lost in a relationship or union, everything will begin to go wrong. It's true that no one is perfect. I've heard that all my life. But that is no reason for us to retire ourselves to negatives and falsehood. As a single lady, a man who cannot handle the truths about you is incapable of being your husband. If you build cobweb of lies around him to make him fall in love with you, the day he discovers it, everything will begin to go wrong. And if you are a single guy, a lady who detest you for telling her the truth is incapable of being your wife. If you marry her by all means, including telling her 'love lies', the day she discovers all your lies, your worst nightmare has only begun. It always require another lie to cover up an existing lie. And when these lies go on in circle for so long, a castle of lie is eventually built, and in that castle, we feel so insecure, afraid that the lies we've been telling would be uncovered soon.

Now, look into your partner's eyes, and say, ''Hate me if you want, but don't lie to me.''

---A.A. Adetoye

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