Roses Do Smile

Dr. Gary Smalley shares his story: After ten years of marriage, I felt I was finally becoming a success at my work. I was privileged to speak regularly at various organizations in our city and throughout the country. My wife and I had a beautiful home and two children. What more could a man want? Then from my point of view, a tragedy occurred in my marriage. Norma became pregnant with our third child. I was not enthusiastic. If anything, I was depressed, realizing our youngest had only been out of diapers two years. I was just starting to enjoy my children, and the thought of another little baby around the house was almost overwhelming, particularly when the doctor had told us specifically that we couldn't have any more children. Although I tried to be nice to Norma, I couldn't hide my disappointment. ...

You were nervous going in, traffic kept you up so you showed up late and now you are fumbling with your words trying to think of things to say. No one likes the feeling of a bad date, nor do most people like being in a situation where it is obvious the person they are with is not enjoying themselves. Luckily, if you are smart about things and remain calm, there are some ways you can turn that bad date around and redeem yourself. 1. Flat out apologize and ask to start over Sometimes if things are going very badly, you might just want to apologize for the rough start (this would be applicable say if you arrived late) and then ask if you could start over. Most people do realize that dating can be an intimidating process and if they are fairly interested in you from speaking with you before hand will be willing to ‘start fresh’ once again. 2. Move the date to a different environment Sometimes it’s not so much that you and your date are having trouble with each other ...

A survey conducted in the West reveals certain girl traits guys look out for before dating a lady. Here are a few: 1. A GIRL WHO CAN TAKE OUT THE TRASH. "Guys look for girls who aren't so prissy that they are above taking out the trash," said Richard, 29, from Massachusetts. "Guys don't mind doing it, but it's nice to know that your girl doesn't think it's a task that's beneath her that only her guy can do. That's not attractive. Both parties should be equal in a relationship." 2. A GIRL WHO CAN HANG LIKE A GUY. "You don't have to wear makeup all the time to get a guy to like you," said Jason, 19, of New York. "Most guys don't want to hang with a girl who wears tons of mascara and lip liner everywhere she goes. Natural is much more attractive. That way, we know what we're getting and you're not hiding your flaws under a bunch of makeup. No one's perfect and guys know that." 3. ...

If you are in a relationship that's in some trouble, ask yourself the following questions. What do you each want out of the relationship? Do you still enjoy your life together? Are you ready to sacrifice time and energy to make your relationship work again? Do you still love each other? Your answers to these questions will help you pinpoint the extent of the problem and whether or not you both have the energy and the will to make changes to improve things. Let's look now at some ways to handle the difficulties: Stop the blame game When things are going badly, couples tend to ask who is at fault and which of them is to blame. Neither of these questions is helpful. It's better by far for both partners to accept that they share joint responsibility for the relationship and to agree that when they are having problems they should work at them together. Find time to work on your relationship In today's busy, moder...

''It’s not easy to please a woman.'' Or that’s what many men who have lost in love think. Pleasing a woman isn’t just about catering to her whims. In reality, understanding what women want from men is all about realizing what it takes to be a good man and even better company. If you can understand what it takes to become a better man, you’d surely understand what women want in a perfect man. But for starters, here is a list of simple things that can make your woman feel like she’s hit the jackpot on you. What do women want from men? It all comes down to simple things, really. But it’s always the simple things that are the hardest, isn’t it, especially when you don’t realize the importance of the little things that really matter. Use these pointers here, and your woman will feel more loved and happy than ever before. A man who can woo her often Remember the first few weeks of love where you tried everything you could think of to impress your woma...

Words can be very powerful, and their effect, positive or negative, can last for a lifetime. What do you say to your dating partner or spouse that makes him or her very happy? Think again. We wanted to know what ladies think about this, so we put forward the following question in an online interaction, and the responses are just revealing. ''What is the nicest thing a lady can say to her guy that will make him feel like a king.?''  Responses [Unedited] :   Linda van der Byl I really appreciate you Abara Michael Action speaks not words i dnt tink dia is somethin ave not herd b4 Adejube Esther I go with mic. Action is d best word a guy can appreciate Danlami Giwa Your father's a thief b'cos he stole all the stars in the sky and put them in your eyes. Ikori Leonard Agboje Ur d bst in bed Ebenezer Abiodun Abosede U ar ma hero Tracey Maluleke U mean the world to me A...

Are you dating or in a serious relationship? Did you realize that very often we make the same dating mistakes over and over again? Sometimes these mistakes can lead to losing the date of our dreams, or possibly leading us into a bad relationship. I've compiled a list of dating No-nos which will help you identify a possible problem that you can work on to improve your dating experience. #1 - Playing Games: When it comes to dating we all have a fear of rejection. This is human nature. So playing it cool and not getting too involved with others makes us feel safe. Only problem with this is you may come off as being cold and aloof. For many people this is a real turn-off. And you may find the date of your dreams slipping away. The best way to find a loving relationship is to be real. People will be far more receptive to you if they believe you are genuine. An other game people play is the "manipulation" game. Doing things like telling someone you "l...

We wanted to get the feeling of young people regarding the issue of double-dating, and we posed the following case study, and got revealing responses: ''Your ex- left you for another person, and that almost cost you your life. You survived that relationship heart-break, and you've moved on with your life. Two years later, you got engaged in another relationship and you're happy with your new partner. But now, your ex-, who you love so much and still have feelings for, is back and is doing everything possible to get your love & attention again. Would you abandon your current relationship and return to your ex-? Or would you ignore your ex- and remain committed to your new partner? Or would you double-date? Be honest.''   Responses [Unedited] :     Margaret Edet I'll double date bt wont sleep wit my ex....m just doin dat to knw who trully luvs me.. Ebenezer Abiodun Abosede Lol I won't give him ma hrt 2 ma ex ag...