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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AS SEXUAL STIMULANT???--What Nigerians Think. [Poll]







Discussing with a man, he told me that the best time he enjoys sex with his wife is after they've had a big fight and he has beaten her mercilessly. Then he will have pity on her and while trying to plead with her, they would have an enjoyable sex. After a while, they would fight again, and end up having sex. This has been their romance pattern over time and they have three kids. I'm deeply worried. Is this normal? Is assault on a woman a catalyst for sexual fulfilment? Share your thoughts, please.
Andrew Adedayo Adetoye 
Relationship Coach 

Responses on Facebook:
  • Sylvia Chikezie its funny enuff hw men can enjoy their sexual pleasure wit violence. I don't undastd d connection coz love making shd be enjoyable wit ease nd comfort. Honestly, dat man nids an open ended orientation as regrds d violence he hs decided 2 use as a medium or yardstick 2 wat he calls.....an enjoyable sex life.....its not normal nd can neva be....

  • Awele Katerina Dekpe Andrew Adedayo Adetoye posted in Love, Dating Marriage ----- Real Life Gist. Andrew Adedayo Adetoye 11:42am Aug 31 Discussing with a man, he told me that the best time he enjoys sex with his wife is after they ve had a big fight and he has beaten her mercilessly. Then he will have pity on her and while trying to plead with her, they would have an enjoyable sex. After a while, they would fight again, and end up having sex. This has been their romance pattern over time and they have three kids. I m deeply worried. Is this normal? Is assault on a woman a catalyst for sexual fulfilment? Share your thoughts, please.

  • Okoro Queen As 4 meooo! That how some women enjoy sex a typical example of a frnd that I know, so women don't just accept sex / love making so easily nd lose like that as 4 queen she prefer it wen she struggled nd been hard on b4 she can enjoy nd y doing that she ill b crying and begging that is how she enjoy it. So the husband has observed her since they were married nd found out that is the only she enjoys love making nd decided 2 play by her rules. So I think is a catalyst for d both party.

  • Ibrahim Hanz Aliyu Dats crazy.... I dont see how one can enjoy violent sex. Bt since They are happy nd enjy their sex life dat way, its well. I wish dem good luck.

    • Tona Anato Thats disgusting

    • Sam Mbah My God, may God help them and deliver two of them from that act. Bcos, what example are they giving their children?

    • Agatha Uvie May he not beat her to death one day!

    • Buildhouseplantvineyards Neverlabourinvain Godestablishdworkofmyhands They both need urgent divine intervention The earlier they seek help The best for them

    • Agudozie Uzoma Emmanuel Y can't d woman also have share of beatng d man.Dis nt normal

    • Isdora Ndukwe Dat d attitude of drug, then check d foundation of their marriage.

    • Onny Aeromosell i had a gurlfriend in sch then,this was their pattern.she confess to me she likes it

    • Patrick Obia One man's meat, another man's poison.

    • James Onuoha yeah some people are like that.

    • Ogbuehi Ihuoma What ever makes a relationship work. They are not complaining, y should you. Thats what makes dem happy and is keeping them together. Good 4 them. Pray for them, that no one loses their life, and move on. One mans meat is anodas poison.

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    • Okonji Chinonso Sickos and Psychos hv the same pronunciation but they hv diff meanings....they are very sick in the head and need a psychiatric


      • Patrick Onyejose Whatever a Married man does with his wife is nobodys business and as long as either of the couple is not complaining. If the wife doesn't like it let her park out and divorce the husband.

      • Akinubi Paulswag that is abnormal as far as am concern....black eye before and after sex is crazy and the woman will be the only nurturing the wound while the man goes out for more training on how to improve on his closelines.....its completely not nice

      • Patrick Onyejose @Paulswag "What's Nice" is relative

        • Adewodun Yemi Daniel Ipoola the relationship of the couple is described as sadomasochism...in sadomasochism, sexual satisfaction can only be achieved by inflicting physical pain on the partner to.biting,slapping,kicking,whipping and hairpulling are some ways in which pain is inflicted...the underlying principle of sadomasochism is that sex is a neccesary but offensive act that causes guilt which must be atoned for by such punishment...

          • Ibukunolu Alao Babajide He is very sick! He needs a Shrink fast. Without immediate psychiatric help, he will kill his wife soon and plunge many into serious misery! IBK

          • Ugoh Anayo pls d man needs verz serious

          • Ariwodola Damilola while it's not uncommon, it is also not normal. This kind of sex could be labeled as 'Kinky' and it is usually preferred by people with dominance issues who nuture twisted fantasies. They have the need 2 always set the pace. When he beats her, he's conditioning her 4 the play and when he starts 2 console her, he's setting the mood that will ultimately bring "ONLY HIS" desires 2 d peak. This is psychotic, abusive n selfish. Role playing a fight is fine but beating is neva acceptable. Like IBK, I tink he needs intensive Rehab.



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