THE CHALLENGES OF BREAKING UP BY PASTOR BIMBO ODUKOYA.

[Culled from her book, HOW TO CHOOSE A LIFE PARTNER---165 QUESTIONS TO ASK]

Breaking up has its own challenges. Nobody ever said it was going to be easy. Having enough courage to tell your partner that you are calling it quits is a major challenge. Many people stay in a bad relationship for fear of being lonely. There is also the allegiance of mutual friends. Breaking up will not be easy, even when it is necessary, but divorce is a lot more terrible. Rather break up a courtship than endure a divorce.

A relationship that you are not enthusiastic about is leading nowhere. You may need to break it off before it turns around to break you. If you feel the need to break off a relationship, have the courage and goodness of heart to tell your partner the pain truth [exactly what you find distasteful about the relationship] with the purpose of serving, rather than slighting him/her. Never spiritualise your action, for example, by saying that you heard from the Lord. This will not do. Rather ask the Lord to give you the strength and wisdom to do what must be done.

One cannot make an omelet without breaking an egg. Nothing good comes easily. Getting emotional about your friendship with your partner and the way a breakup may affect him/her even though you are sure that this is the best thing to do, could lead to staying with someone out of pity. This is a dangerous reason for getting married. Breaking up, for whatever reason will hurt but the other person will get over it. It's better than getting a divorce six months into a marriage.

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