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SEXUAL DESIRE AND ITS INFLUENCE ON LIFE PARTNER DECISION.






I want to be blunt here and say things the way they really are. I have spoken privately and severally with guyz on the principal thing they look out for in a lady they hope to marry. One thing stood out----The lady must be good in bed. She must be sexy. She must be sweet and her body must be attractive. On and on the guyz went describing how romantic the lady must look.

I have also followed court cases on divorce and noted the frequent reasons why a man or woman wants his/her marriage dissolved. I have observed that more often than not, men based their decision to marry a lady on sexual emotions. That informs why when a man first meets a lady, he 'browses' her with his eyes from head to toe, checking 'everything' that appeals to him sexually, and when he feels satisfied that the lady will do well in bed, he falls in love with her almost immediately. And the wooing game begins. He tells her how much he loves her, she is the best thing in the world and so on. And eventually the lady agrees to date him, and the dating goes on for a while. All the guy continue to see is the sexy part of the lady, and he is blind to all other things about her. Then they get married. On the wedding night, they enjoyed the most thrilling sexual act, fulfilling all their fantasies. For days and weeks, the sexual act goes on until the lady is confirmed pregnant. They are happy, but for a while. And then, issues that were overlooked during courtship starts to rear its ugly head. They soon realized that they are NOT operating on the same or complementary wave frequency. Things begin to fall apart between them, and fast too. They soon realized that they are NOT compatible in many respect and that begins to breed serious conflict in the marriage. As one thing leads to another, two or three years later, they realized they can't live together. The result---DIVORCE.

Gentlemen and ladies should do more to pay attention to equally important issues of compatibility than sexual desires and fantasies. The greatest need of society today is healthy marriages. I will share more on this in the coming days.

Andrew Adedayo Adetoye
Relationship Coach & Consultant.

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