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''Can I Introduce Him To My Parent?'' ---Anita Odure Odeh.

 Once upon a time, it was rare for African parents to believe that their young daughters know so much when it comes to love and marriage. It was common to see parents marry their daughters away without their consent. And when an elder son in the family is getting married, his younger sisters had little or nothing to contribute when there are family meetings aimed at planning the wedding and engagement. If a young daughter in the house decides to express her opinion issues bothering on marriage, the elders or her parents would yell at her, ''Shut up. What do you know?''

But that was back in those days.

Today, girls don't just know so much about love, dating and marriage, they are also 'pushing' their way through 'barriers' to make their voice heard loud and clear. Luckily for them, the social media space offers everyone, young and old, amazing platforms to share.

Meet Anita Odure Odeh, the young and pretty undergraduate of Mass Communication at the Benue State University, Makurdi. She has a strong passion to share every thing her brain and heart tells her to share on love matters. 

Anita sent me this piece all the way from Makurdi, and it is a delight to publish it.
Her words, 

''Girls notice the little things you do, from the way you eat to the way you walk. For every guy we go out with, there is the thought, ''Can I introduce him to my parents?''
 
Her views may not be perfect, but she deserves to be heard. Welcome to Anita's world!
 
Andrew Adedayo Adetoye
Lead Host 
 
 
 
 
 
Anita's Piece
 
Women are not as complicated as men think they are, maybe women are even the simplest 'creatures' to understand on earth, and that’s if you want to understand her of course.
 
Steven Harvey already made this easy for us [ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN; a must read book].  Now we know how a man thinks but its not a one way thing, women also think.
According to Harvey, a real man shows love by providing, professing and protecting his woman, which I don’t dispute. But a real woman shows her love by professing, appreciating and showing loyalty (which could also be trust) to her man.
 

 


 
 


 
 

 
When a lady introduces her man to her friends, guys see it as a regular thing… she just wants to show off, Ladies always introduce their boyfriends to their friends. It's like putting a stamp on the guy; “this one is taken”, and her friends becomes the watchdog (there ain’t no bound of friendship strong like a clique of GIRLFRIENDS!) watching through invisible tiny cameras. That’s how women end up knowing everything (don’t dare lie to her).
 
Pleasant surprises generate greater appreciation than expected gifts or favors… Women love surprises. Your lady love the thought of you remembering she loves cocacola, and you get a bottle on your way to see her. She loves the garbage bag you emptied without her asking you to, she loves that you tried to prepare dinner (though the food tastes awful), she loves it that you can look at her and know she is hurting, she loves when you do things without her asking you to. These things a man does without her asking actually gives her greater joy and she appreciates them from the heart. Do not misunderstand me, she will also appreciate things you do that she ask you to, but a person would barely appreciate a favor he/she had to beg over and over and over again for.
 
 
 
There is no greater pride a lady gets when she is with her friends than saying what her man did and is still doing for her. (Ladies would always discuss you with their friends. Get use to that.)
 
Believe it or not if you want your woman to be loyal to you, you must be able to PROVIDE for her: mentally, spiritually or financially.
I’ve never met a real woman who wants to end up with a BROKE man. May be that lady exist somewhere, please inform me when you meet her. I do like to meet her too and I bet I would give you 1000 reasons why she is not a real lady.
 
 
 
If you can’t give provide her with attention, care, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or you can’t lead her to God, or you can’t help her fix her hair or get a nice pair of shoes she admires at the mall, or provide the cab fare to take her home, she is just going to consider the next dude who tries to provide for her mentally, spiritually or financially and you become an option.
 
If you want loyalty from a woman you should be able to PROVIDE for her.
 
 

Girls notice the little things you do, from the way you eat to the way you walk. For every guy we go out with, there is the thought, ''Can I introduce him to my parents?''

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